Disclaimer; If this offends you, it shouldn't. But if it does offend you, why?
Perhaps you're offended because you realize that my perception of things is honest. Maybe you've had ugly moments that you're ashamed to own, or maybe up until this moment you were completely oblivious to the ugly things people say and do, and thought nothing of it. Why should it offend you? I'm me, and you're you, and we're all entitled to our own thoughts and feelings. I just feel the need to express mine freely when I honestly believe it could influence the better in someone.
This comes after viewing a particular entry on a blog called Mancouch that refers to so Hollywood's lesson that by putting "hot girls" with "chubby/ugly guys" in the movies, it means that if you're a guy, it doesn't matter what you look like, so long as you're funny. I've heard this rant and "chubby/ugly girls" getting with "hot guys" for so many years, and I still find the stereotyping of chubby equating to ugly, and the very perception of ugly ridiculous.
Here's something to consider, Hollywood perhaps realizes, or the writers of these movies at least realize that there is more to a human being then what is visually there, and there are people who do exist, believe it or not, who fall in love with the person a as a whole. Their outside, their inside, and all that's in between.
I think peoples perception of what is ugly, unattractive, etc. has become pretty harsh over the years, and I believe media doesn't help by feeding us this crap.
If no one ever put you down, would you feel the need to do so to others?
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, please remember that.
There is no one thing that every human being on this planet will agree is "HOT" or "SEXY" etc. A majority may, but not every single one of us, men and women alike.
Honestly, the only ugly people I know -- rather the only people that *I* believe are ugly, are people that I have come to know all too well, and have shown their uglyness from the inside, and thus it has taken over the outside. I don't actually believe anyone on this planet is visually an UGLY human being.
When I hear that someone won't go to a bar or club with "ugly" people. I try to make light of it by saying something like, "doesn't that mean the girls/guys will go for you then?" They might respond with "if you're with too many ugly people, you keep the hot people away." No matter what way it's said, I cringe. I even cringe now, because I wish people didn't think that way.
There was a time when I too made fun of people, but it was a very, very, very short time. I think it was my way of retaliating against the bullies who did it to me everyday. As if joining them would make me feel better about myself, the way it apparently did for them when they made fun of me. I felt absolutely nauseated over being that way. I try my hardest not to be one of those people who I grew to despise as a child. Those people I loath, and yet I almost want to thank them, because had they not treated me so poorly, maybe I would have become just as ugly as they were and possible still are. I wouldn't have turned out to be the self-educated, try-not-to-be-confrontational, nurturing, empathetic, understanding woman that I am today.
I make light of certain situations, and after certain remarks because I get so uncomfortable, that I just don't know what else to do. I don't want to get into a debate with anyone, I don't want to come off as if I am this higher educated, extremely mature person who sits on this million foot horse, but fricking hell, sometimes it's so hard to bite my tongue. I just don't misunderstand them and it frustrates me. I care and adore many aspects of people who are like this, but I do not ever want to be like them, while hoping they'll change their immature perception of things.
I do not believe externally (visually), that anyone is "ugly". I do however, believe that there are people who have ugly inner sides to them. I don't care how visually attractive some of these people may be, many of them are ugly in my mind.
Furthermore, I do not believe ugly is a visual perception, I believe the only true ugly in this world exists from mental perception.
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